Spiritual Partners

An archetype is a collective human idea. The archetype of marriage was designed to assist physical survival. When two people marry, they participate in an energy dynamic in which they merge their lives in order to help each other survive physically. The archetype of marriage is no longer functional. Marriage is being replaced with a new archetype that is designed to assist spiritual growth. This is the archetype of spiritual, holy or sacred, partnership.
The underlying premise of a spiritual partnership is a sacred commitment between the partners to assist each other's spiritual growth.

Spiritual partners recognize their equality. Spiritual partners are able to distinguish personality (ego) from soul (spirit), and, therefore, they are able to discuss the dynamics between them, their interactions, on a less emotional-bound ground than husbands and wives. That less emotional ground does not exist within the consciousness of marriage. It exists only within the consciousness of spiritual partnership, because spiritual partners are able to see clearly that there is indeed a deeper reason why they are together, and that that reason has a great deal to do with the evolution of their souls. Because spiritual partners can see from this perspective, they engage in a very different dynamic than do husbands and wives. The conscious evolution of the soul is not part of the structural dynamic of marriage. It does not exist within that evolution because when the evolutionary archetype of marriage was created for our species, the dynamic of conscious spiritual growth was far too mature a concept to be included.


The underlying premise of a spiritual partnership is a sacred commitment between the partners to assist each other's spiritual growth.


What makes a spiritual, or sacred, partnership is that the souls within the partnership understand that they are together in a committed relationship, but the commitment is not to physical security. It is rather to be with each other's physical lives as they reflect spiritual consciousness.

The bond between spiritual partners exists as real as it does in marriage, but for significantly different reasons. Spiritual partners are not together in order to quell each other's financial fears or because they can produce a house in the suburbs and that entire conceptual framework. The understanding or consciousness that spiritual partners bring to their commitment is different, and, therefore, their commitment is dynamically different.

The commitment of spiritual partners is to each other's spiritual growth, recognizing that that is what each of them is doing on Earth, and that everything serves that. Spiritual partners bond with an understanding that they are together because it is appropriate for their souls to grow together. They recognize that their growth may take them to the end of their days in this incarnation and beyond, or it may take them to six months. They cannot say that they will be together forever. The duration of their partnership is determined by how long it is appropriate for their evolution to be together. All of the vows that a human being can take cannot prevent the spiritual path from exploding through and breaking those vows if the spirit must move on. It is appropriate for spiritual partners to remain together only as long as they grow together.

Spiritual partnership is a much freer and more spiritually accurate dynamic than marriage because spiritual partners come together from a position of spirit and consciousness. Spiritual partners commit to a growing dynamic. Their commitment is truly a promise toward their own growth, to their own spiritual survival and enhancement, and not to their physical.


Spiritual partners bond with an understanding that they are together because it is appropriate for their souls to grow together.


There are certain growing dynamics that can occur only within the dynamic of commitment. Without commitment you cannot learn to care for another person more than yourself. You cannot learn to value the growth of strength and clarity in another soul, even if that threatens the wants of your personality (ego). When you release the wants of your personality in order to accommodate and encourage another's growth, you attune yourself to that person's soul. Without commitment, you cannot learn to see others as your soul sees them--as beautiful and powerful spirits of Light.

Just as external power is no longer appropriate to our evolution, the archetype of marriage is no longer appropriate. This does not mean that the institution of marriage will disappear overnight. Marriages will continue to exist, but marriages that succeed will only succeed with the consciousness of spiritual partnership.

The archetype of spiritual partnership—a partnership between equals for the purpose of spiritual growth—is emerging within our species.

This is different from the archetype of marriage which was designed to assists physical survival, and in which the partners do not necessarily see themselves as equals. The archetype of spiritual partnership reflects the conscious journey of multisensory humans toward authentic power.

Spiritual partners recognize the existence of the soul, and consciously seek to further its evolution.

They recognize nonphysical dynamics at work within the world of time and matter. They see matter as the densest, or heaviest, level of Light that is continually being shaped and reshaped by the souls that share this sphere of learning. They consciously cocreate their experiences with each other and a compassionate Universe.

When the archetype of spiritual partnershipof individuals joined in equality for the purpose of spiritual growthemerges at the level of community, it creates values and perceptions at that level that reflect those of the multisensory personality.

Just as individuals that bond in spiritual partnership and choose to express their bond through the convention of marriage infuse the energy of spiritual partnership into the archetype of marriage, and thereby create new values and behaviors within marriage, individuals that join in spiritual partnership at the level of organization, city, nation, race and sex infuse the collective consciousness of these levels with the energy of spiritual partnership, and create new values and behaviors at these levels.

The evolutionary process that occurs at the level of the individual is the same process that occurs at each level of interaction between individuals. When an individual invokes the energy of the archetype of spiritual partnership, not only the partnership that it forms with another individual is affected, but also its community, nation and the global village. Your decision to evolve consciously through responsible choice contributes not only to your own evolution, but also to the evolution of all of those aspects of humanity in which you participate. It is not just you that is evolving through your decision, but the entirety of humanity.

If you wish the world to become loving and compassionate, become loving and compassionate yourself. If you wish to diminish fear in the world, diminish your own. These are the gifts that you can give. The fear that exists between nations is a macrocosm of the fear that exists between individuals.

The perception of power as external that separates nations is the same that exists between individuals; and the love, clarity and compassion that emerge within the individual that chooses consciously to align itself with its soul is the same that will bring sexes, races, nations and neighbors into harmony with each other. There is no other way. Though each human being is responsible for the quality of life that he or she personally experiences, simultaneously that extends into the macrocosm.

The threat of nuclear annihilation, for example, is a macrocosmic idea or notion on our Earth, and it requires the complete evolution of the microcosm in order for that to evaporate. So long as those who strive to establish harmony at the level of nations have within themselves the anger and violence that they seek to heal between nations, the harmony that they seek to create at the macrocosmic level cannot come into being. What is in one is in the whole, and therefore, ultimately, each soul is responsible for the whole world.


It is not until you have the courage to engage in human relationships that you grow. When you commit to a spiritual partnership with another human being:

You begin to live by the values, perceptions, and actions that reflect equality with your partner and a commitment to his or her spiritual development and your own.

You begin to set aside the wants of your personality (ego) in order to accommodate the needs of your partner's spiritual growth, and, in doing that, you grow yourself. That is how spiritual partnership works.

You begin to see that what is necessary to the health of your partnership is identical with what is necessary to your own spiritual growth, that each of you holds the pieces that the other is missing.

You begin to value your partner's contribution to your development. You experience that his or her perceptions and observations are helpful, and, indeed, central, to your growth, that conversations between you stir deep waters.

You learn the roles of love and commitment and trust in making your partnership work. You learn that love is not enough, that without trust, you are not able to give and to receive the love that both of you have for each other. You learn to trust not only each other, but also your ability to grow together. You learn that you put your partnership most at risk by avoiding that which you are most afraid will destroy it. It is not easy to express what is inside you, especially that which makes you feel vulnerable or painful or angry or upset. These are the emotions that empower words that can do either damage or can do so much healing.

You learn that sharing your concerns with consideration and the intention to heal and trust in the process is the only appropriate avenue. As you approach your needs with courage instead of fear you ignite a sense of trust. The true human condition in its most perfect form has no secrets. It does not hide, but exists in clear love.

You learn the value of really listening, the value of considering another's position. By becoming the other person, by truly walking into the fears of the other and then returning into your own being again, you open up the conversation to transcend the personal and become healing at the impersonal. This allows you to see each other as spiritual playmates as you work through the areas that require healing in each of you. Even into the toughest moments of your work on feelings of insecurity you can be light and remind yourself that you are spirits who have taken on the physical experience and have far greater power than you are showing in that moment of weakness.

Spiritual partners see from the perspective of the impersonal (spiritual), and they help each other see from that perspective the meaning of their experiences. They can laugh at the richness and the beauty and the playfulness of the Universe. They enjoy each other. They see the frustrations of the wants of the personality for what they are, learnings, sometimes great learnings, for the soul.


Gary Zukav, graduate of Harvard and winner of the 1979 American Book Award in Science, explains that we are evolving from a species that pursues power based upon the perceptions of the five senses, external power, into a species that pursues authentic power—power that is based upon the perceptions and values of the spirit. Using his scientist's eye and philosopher's heart, Zukav illustrates how the emerging values of the spirit are changing marriages into spiritual partnerships, psychology into spiritual psychology, and transforming our everyday lives.


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